This is my business, my purpose, my cause. As a transitional life coach, most everything I do is centered around this idea. It seems that no matter the reason a person calls me it all comes down to producing peace from a circumstance, be it big or small.
“Producing peace from one’s pieces” is not the same thing as “making peace with one’s circumstance”.
“Making peace with” is about acceptance of a situation. In this state of mind, one is left with an understanding there may likely not be any real change that one can make. It may just become about learning how to be in a non-combative state of mind.
One can also reconcile oneself to a better place by repenting or making peace with a person or with God.
However, none of this is about actually producing peace from one’s pieces, the parts of us that have been crushed and broken whether by another or of our own doing.
Producing peace from one’s pieces as used in my practice as a coach is about creating wisdom from our worst.
Learning how to take the broken pieces of our experiences in life to build a foundation for a solid future is one of the most empowering life skills we can utilize to our benefit. We become resilient.
I invite you, if you haven’t, to learn this skill and become the empowered soul you were designed to be.
►Produce Peace From Your Pieces◄
My son recently said to me, “Mom, for the first time in my life I truly understand what it means that one must have money to make money.” He had made a small investment in a product and was able to sell it for a significant profit.
I began to think about how every day we all create or hold back abundance from entering our life in so many ways. We either invest in our life or we just think about lack.
Why does it matter? It matters because when we feel like we have an abundant life full of blessing and opportunity, we are more likely to enjoy our life. We will feel empowered to make good choices and so we will. With this kind of view of the world we believe that we are not victims. We see something we think needs to be improved, we begin to understand that we are the ones who can make the difference and so we do. Everyone wins!
Back to my son, it didn’t just happen. It was outside the scope of his career. He reached out and invested. Little investments that over time make huge differences in his life. He feels blessed and good about his choices. So, he does it again.
So, I ask you, where can you invest in your life? Your health? Time with your children? Anything.
Little investments that over time make huge differences.
Then, do it again!
Produce Peace From Your Pieces
I love you…..those three words that we all need to hear in our life. It feels good.
However, there is one thing that really makes us bond with another. It is when we know WHY someone likes us.
I invite you to think about this. We want to know we are loved but when we know specifically why we are liked, it delights our very soul.
This is what I call a SUPER POWER, the ability to tell another what we like about them.
To be able to delight the soul of another, to help someone connect and heal is a gift to our self and to those around us.
Commenting on another’s personality traits or even their fashion choices lets them know we NOTICE them. We appreciate something that is uniquely them.
I invite you to try it this week. Every day be specific with someone. Be appropriate to the level of connection with them. You can be personal with loved ones and offer kind unobtrusive comments to less close acquaintances.
Observe how being appreciated and noticed tends to heal the soul. Theirs and yours.
Let us produce peace from our pieces!!
Thanksgiving time is a time we think of gratitude. Some of us practice writing down that for which we feel grateful.
This can help turn our attention toward more positive ways of being.
Those that have practiced the fine art of “Gratitude Thinking” know that the act of daily practice changes one’s view of life. A more positive view of life likely leads to a more positive life.
When we think of gratitude, we naturally think of being grateful for that which we have already received.
However, did you know that you can practice gratitude in future tense?
Picture what you want life to be like. Choose something healthy and life affirming. Be specific. What would you do differently? How would you dress? Who would your friends be? What would you eat? The questions are endless.
Every day be committed to how you would feel if this were indeed your life. Part of that feeling would be gratitude.
Live that feeling every day.
I invite you to be grateful for answered prayers, even if you can’t see the answer yet.
Let’s Produce Peace from Your Pieces.
There are beautiful wild forces within us. …….. — St. Francis of Assisi
What if we believed this quote from St. Francis of Assisi? What if we believed there were beautiful and wild forces within us?
Whether we believe such things has much to do with what we TELL ourselves.
Our thoughts create our feelings. When someone tells me, “I feel______.” I always ask them, “What are you telling yourself?”
For example, if someone tells me they are feeling angry, I know the anger comes from something they have told themselves. It may have happened quickly, or it may have happened over time. They may not even know from where it came… past circumstances or people? It may or may not have anything to do with truth.
Our feelings are messengers. If we listen, we can learn a lot.
This is where our personal SUPER POWERS comes in to play….. we can tell ourselves anything we want!!!
I am here to tell you…YOU are a beautiful soul…
What is the truth about you? What do you WANT the truth to be about you? Tell yourself.
Produce Peace from Your Pieces,
Kindness is a contagious condition that humanizes us. Like laughter, an act of kindness usually softens the heart.
When a person has a heart filled with pain or hate, they may have a harder time and take longer to accept kindness from another.
However, kindness does humanize us. It also teaches us to humanize others.
Have you ever walked into a room and just felt the tension between two people? You weren’t there to hear an argument or see violence but somehow you could just feel it?
All emotion is energy and we can often feel the energy being displayed around us, even if we can’t articulate what we are feeling or from where it comes.
There is a key to kindness. It is not about being nice. It isn’t only about how we behave. It is about how we feel towards another that matters. If we feel it, we share the energy of the emotion with others.
One kind act a day can change the environment in which we exist. One kind act toward another may change the environment in which they exist.
Your one heartfelt kind act daily in someone else’s life could change their world and yours.
If we want change in the world…..it begins with us!!
If it doesn’t begin with us…maybe we don’t really want change?
Produce Peace from your Pieces!!!!!!
As a life coach, I spend much of my time helping clients gain skills and removing roadblocks.
What is a roadblock?
A roadblock is anything that blocks your ability to move forward or prevents you from reaching your goal or plan.
There are many types of road blocks. One of the most common ones is our beliefs.
What is a belief?
One definition says that it is "acceptance that something is true".
Note, there is nothing in that definition that says the belief is in fact true…just that we accept it as true.
A belief is a thought that you let live inside you. It colors the way you see the world and the values you hold dear. It determines how you react to people and information.
Overcoming erroneous yet closely held beliefs can be difficult. If we don’t recognize we have a roadblock in our beliefs, we may feel stuck for no reason.
Let's look at some ways we have come to have beliefs that have turned out not to be true.
Most of us may have grown up thinking we have five senses. The truth is there are as many as 30. This information can give us more tools to gain insight in to our life and our choices.
Another fact many of us have come to take for granted, is that it takes 21 days to solidify a habit.
This theory has been tested. We have learned through studies that the time it takes is much longer than many of us have been led to believe. It can take a person as little as 21 days to “hardwire” a new habit in to their brain or it could take a year.
Each person is different and reacts differently in each circumstance.
Why does this matter?
It matters because one of the things that makes us keep up our momentum when turning our goals in to plans, is the belief that it is possible to make change in our life.
If I think it should take me a week to accomplish something, that is the expectation I have of myself. If it takes less, I’m happy but if I am still struggling and nowhere near my goal a month later, it may cause me to feel like giving up. Especially, if I am working on something particularly difficult to me.
Part of the process of coaching is to help a person set up the foundation for success. One of the ways that is accomplished is to help remove whatever may be in the way.
This can only be done if we recognize something is hindering us. A coach does this by asking the questions necessary for the roadblock to be revealed.
When the block is an erroneous belief, it can be freeing to toss it aside and move forward. If you are feeling stuck in any area of your life, you may want to ask yourself…..Could it be an erroneous belief that is holding me back?
Have you ever wondered what a first session with a life coach looks like?
There are many types of coaches and many different methods used to successfully help clients.
When I first meet with clients, it is usually over the phone. Frequently, that turns in to what ends up being the actual first session.
I call this the “Wake-Up Strategy Session”. What is a Wake-Up Strategy Session?
Often, we live life on autopilot. Most of us are raised learning about our five senses. We know that there is sight, taste, touch, sound, and smell. However, there are more than these five.
In fact, depending on the definition of a sense and one’s belief system, there are actually closer to 30 senses.
For example, one sense is “thirst”. This sense allows your body to monitor its own hydration level, allowing you to know when you need liquids in your body.
Then there is a sense of “itch”. This is a sense separate from our other touch related senses.
Proprioception is another important sense. Without it, you wouldn’t be able to know where to scratch your itch without looking since this sense allows you to know where your body parts are without looking.
The client and I spend time waking up some of these senses.
The reason for this is to help the client to begin to understand that there are whole worlds of possibilities from which he or she can draw resources.
The first resource is right within one’s own body. This new bit of information allows a person to realize that many of the answers to their own questions have been there all along. A coach’s job is simply to ask the right questions.
The first question is straight forward.
What do you want to accomplish by working with a coach?
Often, we may have spent a life time hoping, wishing and setting goals for things that other people tell us are what is best for us.
It is so important to become exceptionally clear on OUR goals.
However, even when the goals are clearly ours, goals without plans are nothing more than wishes many times.
After I ask a series of questions designed to identify and clarify both goals and roadblocks to these goals, we focus on “intention”.
Intention is more than just a goal. Intention includes designs and calculations and explains the meaning or purpose of a thing or act.
We set about to draw up plans with the detail and fervor of an architect designing a prize-winning home for his own family.
So, this is your peek in to the first session with this life coach.
Do you have goals that need to be turned into plans?
What would you do if nothing was in your way?
Lucretia life coach LLC